Before you go
Check the church's service times on its page here or on its own website, and note which service you want: many churches hold an early, quieter service and a later one with more music, and some have a separate service in Spanish or another language. If the church has a "Plan your visit" or "New here" page, read it: it usually covers parking, children's programs and what to wear.
Plan to arrive 10 to 15 minutes early. That gives you time to park, find the entrance, drop children at their classroom if you want to, and choose a seat without hurrying.
When you arrive
Most churches have greeters at the door, who will say hello and may hand you a bulletin or order of service. That sheet lists the songs, readings and prayers in order, so you can follow along. Larger churches often have a welcome desk where you can ask where things are.
Sit wherever you like, unless a pew is marked as reserved. Near the back or on an aisle is a good choice for a first visit: you can watch what others do, and slip out easily with a restless child.
During the service
- Follow the room. People stand for songs and some readings, sit for the sermon, and in some traditions kneel to pray. Doing what the people around you do is always fine, and so is staying seated.
- Words are provided. Song lyrics are on screens, in a hymnal or in the bulletin. Prayers said together are printed or projected.
- The offering is optional for visitors. A plate or bag is passed, or there is a box at the door. Passing it on without giving is completely normal. Many churches also say outright that guests are not expected to give.
- Communion has its own customs. Some churches invite everyone, some invite all baptized Christians, and some ask that only members of their own church receive. If you are unsure, stay seated or come forward with your arms crossed over your chest to receive a blessing instead. Our denomination guides explain each tradition's practice.
- Phones on silent, and photos only if others are taking them.
Bringing children
Children are welcome almost everywhere. Many churches offer a nursery for babies and toddlers and classes for older children during the service, with a sign-in desk and a pickup tag for parents. Others keep families together and may hand out activity bags. A crying baby is nothing unusual; if you need a break, step out, and come back in when you're ready.
After the service
Many congregations gather for coffee, refreshments or a meal after the service. It is the easiest way to meet people, and nobody expects you to stay long. You may be invited to fill in a welcome card with your contact details; that is optional. If you would rather visit anonymously a few times first, just say so or leave the card blank.
Give it more than one visit
One Sunday shows you only part of a church. The music, the preacher and the size of the crowd change from week to week. If a church felt promising, go back two or three times before you decide, and try a smaller group, class or midweek event as well: that is where people really get to know each other.